May 6, 2008

Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes

"Mommy, what's the name of that girl who is learning you to be happy?" Me-"Ms. Brenda." "Oh, okay. God, thank you for Ms. Brenda to help mommy to not be mean to Daddy because he is nice. Thank you. Amen."

This was my 4-year-old son's prayer tonight, his hand resting on my face. He was sincerely praying for me. As proud as that makes me, the sentiments of his pleadings were a stinging slap to the face. Nevertheless, he expressed the exact reason I'm now visiting my new "teacher" Brenda. She is a counselor.

As I've journeyed down the road with Jesus--listening to sermons, attending Bible study upon Bible study, leading Bible lessons for high school girls, mentoring a couple of them along the way--I've heard over and over again about the fullness of life in Christ. The fullness of joy and peace as a believer that is our right and inheritance. It has excited me and driven me to plod ahead in my faith. However, to be completely honest with you, I have not been able to live consistently in that abundant life. It has been an elusive promise that I lay hold of but see slip out of my fingers often. I'm not able to abide there permanently. The joy that I've found in Jesus has been real, but also fleeting. So frustrating and discouraging.

One of the biggest manifestations of that discouragement is anger. For years now I've been an angry, irritable gal. In college and my early 20's it was okay because those types of girls were looked upon as strong and independent in my circles. But, as I turned my life over to Jesus in my late 20's, I started to become aware of just how ugly the anger was. It didn't really become a big deal until I met Lou and we got married. Poor thing has been dealing with grumpy girl ever since. I have spent the last 7 years struggling with my tendency to be critical, sarcastic, and rude. Yes, I have good days when I'm as happy as a goat in a pile of tin cans. But, those days have become more the exception than the rule.

I know that God has called me to stand up for my family and begin to break the generational sins that have plagued us for years, but this one has proved to be too big for me. There is an underlying something or other fueling the anger and sadness and I've decided to stop running and face it. I have to or I will pass this discontent and anger along to my sweet Cooper to pass along to his kids. The cycle will continue until one of us has the courage to stand up, take God at His word, and fight this thing through until we find freedom. For Cooper's sake, I'm doing it. I'm scared, but I'm doing it.

I know this isn't a feel good post with beautiful analogies and flowery language. But my heart is to cut the fancies and get gut-level honest with you. I want to share this journey with you. I want you to know that, if you're like me, YOU'RE NOT ALONE! Of course, I'm not going to go into every detail (a girl and her fam need a little privacy), but I do want to share any lessons I learn along the way. So know that I will probably be posting a lot about courage, victory, fighting, trusting, etc. And don't worry; it's not my goal to be a weekly downer. I will fight to keep my humor.

I will be visiting with Brenda every Thursday for what sounds like a long time. Evidently, I've got some intense work to do. Fun! Fun! So, I will not be posting on Tuesdays anymore; I'll be moving to the weekends, probably Fridays or Saturdays. I'm trying to be easier on myself, so it may even be on a Sunday or Monday, but I will get it done. This is not only a vessel for me to process what I'm learning, but it is a way for me to serve you through it. To draw alongside you in your pain or trial and to be transparent enough that you might draw comfort from being able to say, "I'm not the only one who thinks like that?" or "I've done that too!"

Ladies, please know that you are not alone in any struggle that you have.

"What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun." Ecc. 1:9

What we are presently going through has been experienced, fought through, and conquered in the name of Jesus before. Let's have the courage to stand up and fight for the abundant life that Jesus promises us. He's not a liar...if He says it's what we're meant to have, let's break through whatever is in our way until we lay hold of it! If you're running from it--stop. Look it in the face and start to process through it. And if you need to seek help. . .don't be ashamed!

"Get wisdom, get understanding; do not forget my words or swerve from them." Prov. 4:5

Seek out the wisdom of a Christian counselor if you need to. There is NO shame in that; just make sure she or he is someone who will lead you to Christ because He is the source of true wisdom.

Let's really do this thing, girls! Let's seek after the victory that we're promised. God will prove faithful.

"I will walk about in victory, for I have sought his precepts." Psalm 119:45

BELIEVE IT! I'll see you next week for our first "session". Love you!



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5 comments:

mb said...

Um, I love Cooper. That prayer made me laugh out loud in the coffee shop :) Thanks for your honesty. Just when the Lord delivered me from my "big" sins, he slaps an enomous generational sin right up on me! Its the biggest battle ive seen, the one im easiest to give up on, the one I dread the most. I applaud you for taking those steps and I will step with you!

Misti said...

Thanks, MB. I love you so much and miss you and D terribly. Hope we can get together soon.

Beautiful Craziness said...

Girlie, God has brought me through so much in the last few months. For a while I was in a deep, dark pit which I kinda put myself in and through it all I saw sins that just were sickening. God was like, ok, you've tried to do it all yourself, it's my turn now and he put me through fire. But...renewal is sweet. I encourage you to keep going, break the chains. He is so good. I love you and will be praying for you. (go and read my "Big News" blog adn you can see a little as to what I am talking about).

Tiffany said...

Thank you for this post. I came across your blog after reading your article on ungrind.org. This entry truly blessed my heart.

Thank you....thank you...

Blessings-
Tiffany

Anonymous said...

I just read your blog, I won't go into the details of how I stumbled upon it, but you are talking about me 30 years ago. I'm 53 years old, and have raised two children,the oldest of which spent the first few years of her life with a "very angry mother". I too have a saint for a husband; I read your "Patient...." article too on ungrind. I remember my turning point, I listened to Patsy Clairmont on "God Uses Cracked Pots" from Focus on the Family. I laughed till I cried, she had my undivided attention, then she nailed me at the end. It made me realize I was angry, ugly, and hard to live with and needed to "lighten up"..... there is much more to the story. I guess I am trying to say hang in there. God is faithful, he loves you and he loves your son enough to see you through this.
A Cerretti
cerrettifam.blogspot.com